5 ways to kill your dream: Bel Pesce:
- Believe in overnight success.
- Believe someone else has the answers for you.
- Decide to settle when results are guaranteed.
- Believe that the fault is someone else’s.
- Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.
5 Ways to Kill Your Dream by Bel Pesce supports Larsen’s
Cultural Images and Myths on many facets.
1- Believe
in overnight success.
Bel describes success as a process over time; she promises
that if you put your hope in overnight success, you will inevitably fail. This
claim supports Larsen’s myth of the Possibility
of Success. This myth is the entitlement to success that some my feel,
because they put in the work. Bel illustrates (literally) the need for constant
effort toward your goal or dream.
From a Process Premise perspective;
Packard would agree that Ego-Gratification
is a Compelling Need that would
be satisfied as success resulted from diligent efforts.
2- Believe
someone else has the answers for you.
The second way to kill
your dream is to believe that someone else has the answers for your. Bel
Pesce talks about how people have an idea, or dream and others will tell them
how that should look, or how they should accomplish it. This is similar to
Larsen’s Wisdom of the Rustic, where
wisdom is gleaned learning from ones challenges. Bel says to overcome the
struggles and let them make you better.
Here the
fourth process premise of Cognitive Dissonance Theory plays a role in believing
someone else has the answers for you. One source of dissonance is Uncertainty of Prediction. One might
look for answers in another person, when they are uncertain of their own
judgments.
3- Believe
that it is a good idea to settle when results are guaranteed.
Larsen’s Value of
Challenge shows us how to achieve knowledge and growth through suffering
and challenge. Bel argues that one of the most challenging points in a
successful career is when you’ve achieved the success you desire. Don’t settle
there, ask yourself; How do I reach the next peak?
4- Believe
that the fault is someone else’s.
Ownership and responsibility are difficult. Many people will
go far out of their way to prove the fault is not their own. Larsen calls this Presence of Conspiracy Myth. Bel Pesce
on the other hand calls this dream killer number four; belief that the fault is
someone else’s. She asserts one must
take ownership of failures to achieve success.
Process
Premise Three: Attitudes, Beliefs and Opinions would support Bel in her
declaration. Taking responsibility is an
attitude that we are not perfect, accepts that we will make mistakes and prepares
the groundwork to move forward.
5-
Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.
Enjoy the journey, learn along the
way, life is not about the goal themselves, its about the journey.
Nice job Frank, the points you make fall right in line what what she is saying. This is good advice and it is funny to me that we hear this stuff in our daily lives, we hear people making these mistakes. Let's hope we don't. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteFrank great job on the analysis. I couldn't agree more with the things that she was saying. Through the years I have watched many of friends and family try the get rich schemes only to flounder. More importantly they also blamed everyone else for it. Sometimes that finger needs to be turned inward.
ReplyDeleteI also find it interestingt that she talked about enjoying the journey to the top. Success requires sacrifice. The best part of life is the journey not just getting to the age of 88 and saying well I made it, time to die. The obstacles and trials we have face along the way make us who we are. They make us better and more successful because we know how to handle or what not to do in the future. Great job Frank I liked this talk.
All of her statements are accurate depictions of how people are killing their own dreams everyday. It seems that people don't want to put in the effort to achieve their goals, and most want a quick fix. Also, like she says, they don't have faith in their own vision and fail to take accountability for plans that don't go as they thought. Your analysis was easy to follow and I liked how you pulled them in with each of her points. Nice job!
ReplyDeleteI like your analysis of this speech. My favorite part is value of challenge. I find it to be the most interesting because that is what people need to do. Challenge yourself to be better or seek a higher goal. Too many times we settle for less and think we should relax once we got there. That motivation needs to continue to burn inside us and keep us challenged always. I think that is the best way to grow and be successful. Great speech choice.
ReplyDeleteSuch a creative way to present these topics. I loved her statement that it is the journey that matters. I have been learning this for many years. I think when you are young, you think happiness is waiting for you at a certain stage in your life. I have learned that the only happiness is to enjoy the journey and find joy and happiness along the way, not matter the stage in life. Very good advise! Thanks for sharing!
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